Psychology, a warning

Some people study psychology to figure out by their family was so crazy and get over it and be more normal. Others study psychology to perfect their crazy and know how to talk their way out of it. Basically to be come better manipulators. I have discovered this recently and felt the need to warn others. Some people in the psyche field are batshit crazy.

Shakespeare's effect on evolution

Because Shakespeare acted out the language of aristocracy, he taught commoners the upper class language, thus taking away a huge barrier between the classes, making a middle class. They used to keep the commoners down by keeping them illiterate. Now they upper class try to take away education, again. But Shakespeare had to be anonymous, (Shakespeare, is not a name of the author) so that the upper class, the aristocracy, couldn't punish him because their work force was now speaking and writing and thinking as a result of his plays. And thus educated in the politics of the time, gave the working class the ability to talk their way from the lower class into the upper class if they so chose. Shakespeare gave them the language to change their destiny.
Which, as far as genetics goes is a good thing, because once a "breed" human or canine or equine get too small of a gene pool, they get unhealthy, and often crazy. They need mutts and mixing genes and mutations, to get the evolutionary diversity that makes them healthy. That is why breeding dogs for a certain trait, or breeding a human for a certain trait, is "bad," because it is against the health and evolution of nature to adapt us to our environment. How superior we must think we are to believe we know what traits are best instead of letting nature change us as it needs to for our most successful survival as a species.    

Teenagers are complicated

Sometimes teenagers come home and yell. It is entirely possible that they don't love you in that moment but generally do love you. It is likely they have other shit going on in their lives they don't know how to handle and take it out on you. Given many people have railed at me when they have their own issues, knowing I will forgive them, that I am a safe place to vent, I do have experience with this. Sometimes, it isn't about you. It really is them. You just have to hope they can forgive themselves and get past it and learn a new way to vent. Because everyone needs to vent. Just listen and respond as if the yelling were regular conversation. Or say, I'd like to help you with this but I can't hear you well while you are yelling. But don't take the yelling personally.

I think we do a disservice to teens tho in that as kids they had "playtime" and as mini adults they have none. Nothing is socially acceptable for them anymore. Even sports was taken away because they either have to be competing to be in the Olympics or nothing. School is all serious too with getting good grades and good test scores to get into college. For some kids this pressure starts in middle school. Then they et to college after years and years if seriousness and party their panties off. Is it really a surprise they seek out playtime when we denied it for so long?

Teenage girls, as they age need a network of girlfriends. The boys aren't going to give them the emotional attention they need. They need to be satisfied with their girlfriends attention and hugs instead of relying on boys for it. There may be a guy out there that can do it, but not all of them. So wait to date until one of those guys comes along. And guys, be the guy with too many hugs that pays attention. WHat kind of attention? Listening.

How do we make friends?

How do we make friends?
1. Listen
2. Compliment
3. Invite
4. Set a date, make it happen. If people are important, you show them by making time for them.
5. Do not speak negatively about them to others. Ever. It ALWAYS comes back to them
6.Take a compliment gracefully. Say "thank you." And smile.

A good listener is a silent flatterer -Proverb

Group survival skills

Group survival skills:
Figure out by observation who is most powerful in the group and make friends with them. It is not always the loudest.

2. Figure out who is weakest in a group and make friends with them

Both will be important

Race

Race
Black people can say whatever they want to each other as can white people. The moment you use a word to put a COLOR of people beneath you, and remind them of their past of being owned, which is a passive aggressive threat, that is offensive.

Doesn't "cracker" come from "one who cracks a whip"? Is that really as bad as Nigger? Meaning "one from Nigeria" aka "not a white person" aka "not and American"? I do not see how those two terms are equal. So whoever it is that thinks Nigger is not a racial slur but cracker is is kidding themselves, and probably a racist whether they know it or not. I would avoid them.